Yesterday (Thursday, Jan 22), I took my dad to see an assisted living facility. This is the first time that we have visited a place like this, so I was a little unsure how it would go. I took a couple of his friends with me when I went to visit Saturday, and we were all under the impression that it was a good place and that it could work. Without getting to deep into his financial situation this place was the best for his money.
Now for the more emotional part of the visit. I knew he did not want to go, but unfortunately these days he is having to do a lot of things he does not want to do. The place is called The Gardens at Sandy Springs. He is a link to their website: http://www.emeritus.com/locations/Show-Community.aspx/Gardens-at-Sandy-Springs,-The. When we went into meet with the director, Wendy, I could tell my dad was not in good spirits. His hands were shaking and he did want to look up too much. After Wendy explained to him the concept of The Gardens she asked "How do you feel about this honestly?" He responded "It saddens me, the whole thing just saddens me." He went on to talk about how this is the last thing that he wants to do, and that he would much prefer to stay in his house. We told him that we would like for him to move in at the end of the month, he asked that we give him more time. So we are aiming to move him in during the middle of February.
This is certainly not an easy time for him or me. But we are getting through this as best we can. I know that many of you have asked if there is anything that you can do to help. Well that time is approaching. Soon we will be moving his stuff from the house to the new "house." While I will need help moving I have most of that already covered. The major areas that I will need help with are: selling his furniture, painting the house, fixing the yard, and selling his house. This will not be an easy or quick task, but I know that with small steps and calculated moves we can get this done. As I get closer to moving and selling I will let you all know specifically what we need help with and when we need the help. Thank you all for the prayers and kind words.
THE MOST IMPORTANT THING: any of you can do is to call him and talk to him. Encourage him and lend an ear to his much needed voice. I know that he is so grateful to have all of his friends that care so much for him. Please continue to be the great friends you have been over the years. If you need anything from me, please feel free to leave a comment here on the blog. Just click the comment bar at the bottom. Thank you all, and have a great weekend.
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Alan, I will be praying for you and Sonny during this time of transition. We had to do this with my mother a year ago. Something my sister did that Sonny would like, is to get an album and in no particular order, put in pictures of friends that would please him to look at...certainly lots of you growing up..the dogs..and us.
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