Well dad is now at the Gardens. He of course is hating, but that is to be expected as no one would want to give up all their freedoms. One thing he is having the hardest time giving up is drinking. I am pleading with his friends that are following this blog to not allow him to drink when he is with you. While he is continuing to do this the medication he is on is worthless. This has become the single biggest struggle for me as his son. I do not believe that he will quit on his own and we cannot talk about it as it leads to an argument every time. I am only telling this to everyone as I do not know how else to tell this to his friends without making 30 or 40 phone calls. Unfortunately like most people will tell when going through a time like this it is the care giver that gets the brunt of the anger and rudeness. My relationship with him is deteriorating each week, but I am trying my best to do the best thing for him. I do appreciate all the suggestions from all of you, but to be honest after battling this for 4+ months now I am starting to run out of gas. I know that many of you have questions and call me to ask what you can do. As for answers to many of the questions I don't have them. And as for what you can do for me or for my dad is pray, call him, and visit.
This weekend we had the estate/yard sale. It went really well as we sold most everything. The rest is going to the Salvation Army. Of course he did not want anything sold, but due to the life he was living and going undiagnosed for a long period of time we had no choice.
I will continue to update this blog as I get time. I have started a new job at Kennestone hospital as the Program Manager for the Total Joint, Spine and Stroke Programs. I am busier than I have ever been, which is great. God has blessed me tremendously during this difficult time. If you have questions please e-mail or leave a comment and I will respond when I can and if I can. Thank you all for your much needed prayers.
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your update is heartbreaking. don't try to do and be everything to sonny. it will kill you. to try to be the "master" of sonny marsh would take five people (and that's sonny without dementia)! i promise i will adhere to your request when i visit your dad. the problem is i have never been able to "make" sonny marsh do anything! i will try my hardest though. i hope and pray that you and sonny can maintain the close relationship you have always had. he is in a wonderful, caring facility and if his friends, as you requested, can visit or call, sonny, with time, will be happier and more accepting of his situation. at least, those are my thoughts. does the gardens have an AA program associated with it or can they transport residents to AA meetings? there must be more people with this problem. love, jerri lynn
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